The Restorative Power of Character, part 1

Is there anything more redemptive in relationships than speaking and acting out of deeply formed character? I doubt anyone would disagree… but what exactly is good character? Many worthy elements come to mind, but today I’d like to talk about just two: intentionality and honesty.

I have been coaching leaders for over twenty years, and the number of life challenges encountered that can be solved with just these two tools is remarkable! Let’s break it down.

Intentionality: I describe this quality as increasing your awareness about what you do and why… and then putting that awareness into conscious action in service of your core values. Truth is, we often run through our days on autopilot—doing really good things, being faithful spouses and parents, being conscientious leaders in business or ministry—but without stopping to process what is most essential to our identity and purpose. Those ideas can feel too lofty or impractical in the daily grind.

They are not.

With merely a few quiet moments of intentionality at regular intervals, you can become more confident, joyful, and productive. What does that look like? Start with a simple daily practice of journaling and prayer. Write down what’s most important in this season of your life—where that’s happening and where it’s not. What’s getting in the way, and how can you find some supportive accountability for leaning into your best self?

Next, set a relevant, meaningful intention for your day… and verbalize that desire to God. See if God wants to drop any fresh insights, perspectives, or actions into your heart regarding that intention. Ask for the humility and character to live out that vision in practical ways today with the people you care about and are responsible for.

At the end of your day, use a short practice like the Daily Examen to review how it went—either alone or with a trusted companion.

Now, remember that supportive accountability we were talking about? Who is that for you? Who can you be that vulnerable with who also brings a consistent positive presence? A skilled listener to you, empathetic believer in you, and insightful collaborator for you? If you don’t have that person, it might be time for a professional coach.

Curious? Try this simple self-assessment to evaluate your change readiness.